Want to be more social? How to find your tribe!

Martin Canyon Creek Trail, Dublin

Five years ago, about six months after my son was born, I became desperate to find people to hang out with during the day. Being at home all day with a baby and having little other social contact was beginning to wear me down. My solution was to do what I normally do… search the internet for help. I quickly found and joined a local mothers club, but didn’t quite connect with the activities or any of the individuals within the group. So my search continued… until I found meetup.com, the answer to all my social problems.

If you aren’t familiar with the website, check it out now… www.meetup.com. Put in a search for activities that interest you (business networking, knitting, running, moms, photography, etc..) within a 5-30 mile radius of your home. Find anything interesting?

OK, at first it wasn’t all rosy. I joined groups that, again, I didn’t feel that I quite fit into. Again, the activities offered by the groups I joined weren’t what I thought they’d be. I wasn’t finding other moms who wanted to get out and walk or hike or take our kids outside to play.  And I wasn’t interested in what they were doing… moms nights out, book clubs, gourmet club, taking the kids to the local indoor play spot.  But then I had an epiphany. I could start my own group!  I could find my own kind… if I built it, I hoped others with similar interests would appear.

That’s when I started Striding Strong: The East Bay Hiking Group for Women. It’s morphed a bit in concept since I originally started the group. At first, it was primarily a walking group, with many of the members being mothers with young children in strollers, work-from-home ladies, and retired women. Today, the members are still similar… stay-at-home moms, work-from-home ladies, and retired women. But it’s expanded to include more… working women who join us for weekend events and sometimes college students. I wanted to create a group where all women could feel welcome to join, whether with children or without, employed or unemployed, married or unmarried. Today, the activities offered by the group have become more focused. We’re primarily a hiking group. I’ve experimented with walks and runs, but hiking seems to be what members are most attracted to. And I’ve limited our geographic range. Our hikes primarily take place in a select few cities in the San Francisco East Bay… Pleasanton, Dublin, San Ramon, and Danville. I started the group in August, four years ago, and am so happy with the friends I’ve made. After our beautiful hike this morning at the Pleasanton Ridge, I felt the need to write something about meetup and my group!

But since then, I’ve met so many other wonderful people through other groups I’ve joined and another group I started (Nature Time! The Bay Area Outdoor Playgroup). I love the social connections I’ve made for both myself and my son.  I treasure the connections I’ve made through other groups I’ve joined recently.  As my interests change and evolve, I go to meetup to look for others who share the same interests.  What a great resource!

P.S.  This isn’t just a U.S. thing… there are meetups throughout the world.  And, no, I’m not endorsed by meetup in any way.  I just wanted to share something I love!


  1. I stumbled upon this post while looking for some random meet up some mom mentioned going on next week and voilà, your post came up. The link to the meet up group was super helpful. It is also nice to read another Bay Area mom’s blog. Mine is paa.la but is mostly about breastfeeding and birth.


  2. Thank you SO MUCH for this post! OK, it’s been two weeks now since I moved, and I know I need to connect with others and build a support network, but how? I’m gonna go check out meetup!


  3. This is absolutely wonderful, but, well, there was an awful lot of talk about moms, and women, and moms who are women. Don’t get me wrong, I love women. I even married one. But, you know, there are, uhm, men who also enjoy hiking and being outdoors and natural history and being a parent and hanging out with a bunch of chicks in the woods in a perfectly non-scary-West Virginia Appalachia way.
    Now, I live approximately a gazillion miles from the East Bay, give or take a few miles, so I obviously won’t be joining you for a walkabout any time soon. But if I did, would I be welcome, or would it be weird? Understand, this is not in any way a criticism, it’s just an exploration for me. Being an American work-at-home dad in Hungary is something I’ve never been before, so I’m feeling my way around a darkened room. Are there any men in these groups? If so, are they admired, pitied, avoided? I’m simply really curious.
    A really great post, by the way, in that it’s interesting but also truly useful for people. Thanks for sharing!


    1. I didn’t go into my other meetup group in the post, though I mentioned it briefly (Nature Time). I purposely started that one to not be a “mom” group, but a family/kid-oriented one. We have quite a few stay-at-home dads in that group. I was just giving an example of how I got into meetup. And, yes, husbands and partners are totally welcome to join Striding Strong hikes. I’ve also invited dads to join us, but haven’t had any sign up. Just want it to be a comfortable environment for women, as a complaint I’ve heard about other hiking groups is that they can have a singles/ pick up feel to them.


  4. You hit the best solution to anything where you cannot find what you are looking for – create it. I have found meetup.com to be useful too.


  5. What a great idea for a moms group! Hiking! I wish I lived there as I would be there! I know what you mean about the loneliness of being a stay at home mom with toug children. I often aearched for ways to interact with like minded people and now I have too many things I want to do but can’t. Great post!


  6. Thank you so much for starting Nature Time! I wish we could make it to more of the walks in your area, but it has been a great way to connect with other outdoors
    loving families here in Livermore!!!


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